A long-time friend of mine shared concerns regarding a medical diagnosis they’d recently received. It wasn’t good so I offered some encouragement, followed by a scripture. Much to my surprise, they responded with, “thanks, wasn’t sure you were a believer.” Judgment day came sooner than I expected.

I wasn’t upset by it. At this stage in life, I allow grown people to own their stuff. Their beliefs, fears, phobias, and judgements – they have nothing to do with me, or anyone else actually. They speak from their own level of experience and understanding. I kept my ego at bay and I didn’t take it personally. I just wasn’t ready for it.

However, I did respond with the truth of – first time I ever heard that. It made me rethink the relationship. How well does this ‘friend’ know me? Perhaps their frame of reference is grounded in the me they knew 30 years ago who didn’t believe in too much that I couldn’t see. Maybe it reflected their level of faith. I don’t know, I tried not to judge.

It helps to know who you are, what you believe and how you’re living. It’s really great when you have written and living testament to refer to that supports and documents your lifestyle. Otherwise, you might fall prey to a loose or fiery dart. Me, I simply observe them – and if they aren’t relevant and require no attention, let them pass by like a cloud in the sky.

But the judgement surprised me. Now I know there’s no special day for it. No specific trumped up ceremony or horn blowing- judgements are made all the time. I was grateful for the opportunity to remember to check myself before I made one (or made any more). The Bible says, “judge not, or you too will be judged” ~ Matthew 7:1. Who wants to invite all that in their life? Not I.

I’m more of a Luke 6 girl (not be confused with Luke cage), “forgive and you shall be forgiven.” Or better yet, I ride with my all time favorites the Corinthians – “But with me it is a very small thing that I should be judged by you or by any human court. In fact, I do not even judge myself.” They say, paraphrased ala Tupac, “only God can judge me!”

Truth be told, (and you know what the Corinthians say about that, “Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth”), in my Colonel Jessup voice, I’d rather you say thank-you, and went on your way. But hey – who am I…to judge?

Namaste.

Just Robin ❤️